Yes, this is a big one, and for many it may be uncomfortable and even embarrassing at times, but trust me, it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Let's take a look at why this happens.
Your subconscious mind is imprinted with the negative meaning you give to closeness based on previous experiences. You are not afraid of closeness - you fear the negative meaning you give to it.
Childhood Origins
If your parents were busy or dealing with their own trauma or mental illness in childhood, you learned that closeness equals pain, because when you sought closeness it didn't feel safe and you may have been rejected.
A Perceptual Filter for Seeing Life
You may blame feeling triggered and having negative feelings on someone getting "too close", but this person is just a catalyst showing you your most concealed wounds.
The Need To Uncover These Wounds
Our subconscious lens prevents us from thriving in relationships, well-being, career, and finances. When someone gets close, our wounds are triggered and surface. This helps us understand how we interpret a particular event.
Here's what to do
Identify the specific stories we want to reprogram, such as: closeness equals rejection or abandonment, intimacy isn't safe, I'll be betrayed. What are you afraid will happen? Why is closeness a bad thing? Then you want to reprogram these stories.
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