Where do I start? How do I know what my attachment wound is ? And WHEN I actually do know, wtf do I do from there?
Well, first and foremost we all have them, unlike some STDS, they ARE curable.
In simple terms, attachment wounds are stemmed from the challenges we've experienced with our caregivers in early childhood.
They can lead to feelings of abandonment, rejection, or unworthiness. These wounds may manifest in fears of intimacy, low self-esteem, or difficulty trusting others. We often encounter emotional wounds that challenge our understanding of ourselves and our relationships impacting our emotions and behaviors in adulthood.
Healing attachment wounds is a complex and ongoing process that requires patience and self-awareness. By acknowledging the presence of these wounds and actively working towards self-soothing and healing, you empower yourself to cultivate healthier relationships and a stronger sense of self.
It's a transformative journey towards self-discovery and emotional healing. By implementing self-soothing techniques and seeking support when needed, individuals can navigate their attachment wounds with resilience and compassion.
Implement Healthy Strategies
Acknowledging that the anxious attachment system is triggered, and why
Actively choosing to respond calmly instead of reacting emotionally
Using self-soothing strategies to calm down when overly stimulated
Communicating openly to a partner about feelings
Managing frustration if a partner’s plans change
Engaging in conflict resolution strategies without becoming aggressive or overly angry
Avoid Anxious Attached Strategies
Constantly thinking about a relationship
Focusing on potential threats to a relationship (whether these threats are real or perceived)
Trying to be as emotionally and physically close to a partner as possible (such as by texting or phoning very frequently)
Self-sacrificing personal needs for those of a loved one, causing a build-up of resentment
Using blame or guilt during an argument to get what’s wanted
Acting jealous towards other people in a partner’s life
Becoming angry, even if this anger is sometimes directed inwards
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